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Healthy Coping Mechanisms

Healthy Coping Mechanisms To Manage Stress & Mental Health Treatment

Benefits of Healthy Coping Mechanism

Healthy coping strategies for stress and trauma may soothe you, temporarily distract you, or help you tolerate your distress. Sometimes it’s helpful to face your emotions head-on. For example, feeling sad after the death of a loved one can help you honor your loss. In this case, active coping is the better strategy. However, there may be situations where avoidant coping is helpful. It certainly helps the person deal with their stress in the short term and can be a good choice if they are at risk of being completely overwhelmed.

Four Kinds of Coping Mechanisms

Weiten has identified four kinds of coping strategies:

  1. Appraised-Focused
  2. Problem-Focused
  1. Emotion-Focused
  2. Occupation-Focused

In the long term, avoidant coping will never be the best strategy for effectively dealing with stress. Coping methods like avoidant coping may work for a time, but eventually, they will become counterproductive or produce unintended consequences.

What Are Coping Skills?

Coping skills, also called coping mechanisms, are the skills you use to make sense of the negative things you may experience during your life. It’s these skills that allow you to still see some positive in an adverse event or to find hope after things haven’t gone as you’d planned.

When someone doesn’t have good coping skills, they may view adverse events as their fault. This is often due to poor self-worth, and it can cause significant anxiety in life. These people feel like they’re at fault for negative things that happen, even though those adverse events may have been in no way caused by their actions.

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Healthy skills include strategies like meditation, exercise, and positive self-talk to deal with daily life.

These are the strategies people often use in the face of stress and trauma to help manage painful or difficult emotions. Coping mechanisms can help people adjust to stressful events while maintaining their emotional well-being. Significant life events, whether positive or negative, can cause psychological stress. Challenging events, such as divorce, miscarriage, the death of a loved one, or the loss of a job, can cause most people to feel grief or distress.

But even events that are considered positive by many—getting married, having a child, and buying a home—can lead to a significant amount of stress. To adjust to this stress, people may utilize some combination of behavior, thought, and emotion, depending on the situation. People may use coping mechanisms for stress management or cope with anger, loneliness, anxiety, or depression.

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10 Ways To Build Healthy Coping Mechanisms To Help Manage Stress

According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America[1], it is estimated that 40 million adults — or 18.1 percent of the population are suffering from some form of anxiety. This trend is not expected to change in the near future. Instead, it is going to increase more as society becomes more digitally connected and there are more events taking place. For adults, there are more stress factors[2] due to health issues, work, family, and the environment.

What is Stress?

There is the misconception that stress is not a natural human response. The truth is that stress is a natural event or force on humans. Stress factors are meant to trigger the flight or fight response, responsible for keeping humans as a species on their toes and alert against danger. In modern times, the threat is not necessarily physical. It can be emotional or psychological.

The stressor may be less of a threat of danger and more of a trigger or pressure to perform. Examples of stress include work and projects; for teens and young adults, it can be the dynamics of the growing mind and body, including sports and dating; for adults, it can be the work environment, social life, expenses, family, and others.

Relaxation techniques are another healthy coping mechanisms that can help you to deal with stress.
Relaxation techniques are another healthy coping mechanism that can help you to deal with stress.

There is another reaction to stress, which is not widely acknowledged. This is called the “freeze” reaction[3]. It is akin to the “deer in the headlight” reaction where a person freezes and is unable to react to the situation. It is not a denial of the situation but disbelief that something is happening or that the person is not able to comprehend the circumstances. Due to the magnitude of the stress, the person cannot move or react. A corollary to the freeze reaction is the body’s sighing[4] which denotes a reboot of the system. This is not an acceptance of the situation but instead is the body’s way of considering the stress as part of the environment.

Stressors can be anywhere and everywhere depending on the person’s age, life and lifestyle. There is a need to find relief from stress and anxiety. People do not simply overcome stress, but they are able to adjust and adapt to it. There are coping mechanisms to properly manage and reduce stress.

Coping Mechanisms for Stress Can Be Negative or Positive

The term “coping mechanism”[5] was first described and applied by psychologists Susan Folkman and Richard Lazarus. As described by Folkman and Lazarus, coping mechanisms are not static rules or behavior but rather a personal reaction to a threatening situation or environment. A person can use one coping method with one stressor or circumstance and another completely different method with a different stressor. The description also implies that there is no exact rule about what a coping mechanism is. This ability to cope can be a negative or positive behavior that may or may not help the individual in the long run.

Coping mechanisms are a person’s response to stress, and sometimes it can be self-harming. Unhealthy coping mechanisms help release or vent stress almost immediately. However, these destructive behaviors[6] can lead to health problems, side effects, or even aggravate stress.

These include harmful practices like:

  • Blaming oneself or others
  • Overeating
  • Emotional outbursts at family and friends
  • Oversleeping, or a problem with sleeping
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Healthy coping skills are behaviors that we use to make sense of negative experiences in a productive and positive way. 

The above types of behaviors can create other problems or worsen problems and do not address the root causes of stress. While a drink before bed is considered normal, it can affect their sleep. Does alcohol affect your sleep?[7] Contrary to popular belief, yes, it does. Some of these negative coping behaviors can lead to lifelong problems like addiction and can exasperate mental illnesses such as depression, bipolar disorder, and anxiety disorders. The above unhealthy coping mechanisms are knee-jerk reactions to developing situations. The person does not think of the consequences of their actions but instead is seeking stress relief. 

Achieving a healthy coping mechanism usually requires a conscious effort by the person. This requires that the person know how they react to stress in their daily life.

There are three common reactions to stress:

  • Overthinking a problem
  • Overreacting to a problem
  • Become emotionally unstable over a problem

None of these are great, but they are understandable. Understanding the normal reactions to stress can help a person to find a coping mechanism that they are comfortable with. When a person finds what works for them in diffusing stress, the chosen coping mechanism becomes a natural reaction where they can easily fall into it with regular practice.

Healthy Coping Mechanisms To Manage Stress

Those who overthink a problem can focus their logic and analysis on developing healthy coping strategies. Challenging the assumptions and beliefs about the stressor can change the way a person thinks about it. Treating it as a problem allows the person to use skills and techniques for problem-solving in a creative and logical manner. If an impasse occurs in the analysis, the person can take a break from thinking about that stressor. This further empowers the person to create some distance from the issue. Alternatively, solving the problem can become a goal or project on its own.

Here are the 10 coping mechanisms for managing stress:

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  • Use of a support structure

This includes cognitive behavioral therapy as well as talking to a medical professional who is in the position to provide advice about stress and in some circumstances medication. A more common way to build a support structure is to find a support group or establish a group of friends to talk to on a regular basis. In time, they become familiar with the stressor and can provide insights and possible solutions.

  • Humor and an alternative point of view

The stressor is only one point of view, and there are others to consider. Some of these perspectives can be humorous and help to lighten the situation. Looking at the funny side of life can help to prevent things from becoming dark and grim.

  • Meditation

Strictly speaking, this is not a logical or analytical tool. However, what meditation can do is to bring focus to a situation and prevent the mind from wandering towards unproductive and anxiety-inducing thoughts. Spending time in a meditative state is one of the ways to cope with anxiety by countering runaway thoughts. It slows down the thought process and blanks the mind. The slow and deep breathing associated with meditation allows the mind to focus on small steps and not go too far into future thoughts. Meditation can also be a great addition to your wind-down session at night. 

  • Weighing the pros and cons

Those who overthink their stress can look at the issues around it. Thinking about the pros and cons can put their minds at ease, as they gain a better understanding of their environment and the stress surrounding it.

  • Physical exercise

Exercising helps the body to release tension in both the body and mind. This is one of the most effective methods of engaging in stress management. Maintaining physical health goes a long way in adaptive coping. It can be a gym workout, an exercise class, swimming, a weekend hike, or playing a sport. Exercise has been known to result in elevated endorphin (“happy hormones”) levels.

  • Studying and learning a new skill

Those who feel anxious because they don’t know have enough experience or knowledge about a subject are better off studying it. This is a proactive activity that helps them prepare for the stressor, as they put their new knowledge to practical use.

  • External help

Although this is more applicable for those in management, this can also work for almost everyone else. If you are completely lost about a particular subject, asking for help (“teamwork”) can relieve a person of the stress that has built up. With external help, you can become more clear and knowledgeable and resolve the problem at hand.

  • Talking to a confidante and friends or maintaining a journal

One common and effective method to control emotional over-reactions is to discuss a particular stressor with friends. They can sympathize or empathize and help to relieve the stress by listening or by offering creative solutions. In lieu of friends to talk to, writing in a journal can also help a person put into words their feelings and the emotions that they are experiencing. Putting these thoughts into words may help a person to better understand their environment or condition.

  • Faith-Based or Philosophical Teachings

Turning to faith can sometimes help. This may not necessarily mean going to church. It can also mean incorporating philosophical teachings into a person’s daily life and applying daily affirmations and gratitude through these teachings.

  • Music

Whether listening to music, dancing or playing an instrument, music can help to calm a person. Music is naturally relaxing[8] and can be used similar to meditation for reducing stress. Pouring emotions into music may help to release the tensions from daily stressful events.

No matter your stressors, finding effective coping techniques is vital to your health and well-being. Finding what works can take a while, but once you do, you’ll feel like a totally new person. 

At We Level Up Treatment Center provides world-class care with round-the-clock medical professionals available to help you cope. In addition, we work as an integrated team providing information about Healthy Coping Mechanisms and other aspects of treatment. Make this your opportunity to reclaim your life. Call today to speak with one of our treatment specialists. Our specialists know what you are going through and answer any of your questions.

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